I was talking to a friend of mine today and I casually mentioned that I’d had a headache earlier in the day, but after I rubbed one out and took a short nap, I felt much better. “Rubbed one out?” she queried. Sure, you know, clicked the mouse, played with the little man in the boat…masturbated! She was at a loss for words. That is until she found enough of them to use against me in a shame fest that could rival anything my mother might have put together for just such an occasion. So how is it that masturbation, an essential part of sexuality, has become so taboo for women?
What’s the deal, ladies? Men pleasure themselves regularly, and have no problem talking about it with friends. Women, on the other hand, either don’t masturbate or lie about it. As if somehow giving oneself pleasure in lieu of being pleasured by someone else is a dirty, tawdry act that requires closed drapes, tears of shame, and the best poker face in the world while denying it. Well, not me…no way! I’m saying it now, for all to hear, I masturbate and I’m proud!There are plenty of reasons women should masturbate more often, but I’ll just list the top 5 reasons here. If you’re one of the unfortunate ladies out there that isn’t already clued in to the glorious results that pleasuring oneself can bring, you’ll want to pay particular attention now.
1. Indulging in self pleasure makes you feel sexy. Touching yourself and exploring your body are great ways to increase your sexual awareness. It can be just what you need to get you in the mood for a little afternoon delight with your partner. And really, even if you’re just doing it because it feels good, what’s the harm in that? You’re at your sexiest when you let yourself be free in bed, so why should that be any different if you’re alone? Feel free to indulge in a little me time, get back that sexy glow, and go on about your day feeling great!
2. Masturbation helps us learn what really turns us on. Most people need a little something to get them going, and fantasizing can be the perfect tool to get those juices flowing. So what are you fantasizing about? Being watched? Getting caught? The things you secretly fantasize about can be tips to learning what makes you tick sexually. So don’t limit that sexy, creative brain! Get that mind in the gutter and discover what it is you’re really turned on by!
3. Masturbation is GOOD for you! It’s true, ladies, it actually has health benefits (click here, if you missed our discussion on this). There is also a study that shows that women who masturbate more often are more concerned about their sexual health and visit the gynecologist more often. I don’t have statistics to back up that last claim, but it makes sense that a woman who explores her body and is intimately familiar with herself would be more apt to notice if something seems amiss and go to see the doctor.
4. It helps to alleviate those dry spells in a relationship. We’ve all been there–our partner wants to get busy but we’re too busy thinking of reasons NOT to have sex. Masturbation can fix that! It goes without saying that having sex makes you want to have more sex–hey, it’s just plain fun. So if you find yourself looking for excuses not to make the springs bounce with your loved one, try masturbating and see how quickly that loving feeling comes back to you!
5. Lastly, but certainly not the least important, it’s fun! There is absolutely no downside to masturbating. It feels great, it stimulates your libido (your partner will thank you!), and it’s 100% risk free. Who wouldn’t want to spend a little me time exploring their body, titillating their senses, and coming (pun intended) out the other side more relaxed and happier?
Take it from me, a self-proclaimed masturbation queen, it’s the right thing to do. Do it in the afternoon before the kids get home; it makes homework time so much easier! Take a quick bedroom break while dinner’s on the stove; your partner will thank you when they get home! Or just do it for the simple pleasure it brings you. Whether you’re using your hands (my preferred method), or kicking it up a notch with a vibrating toy, it’s all good and all about loving yourself. And I very much want all the women in the world to love themselves…over and over and…well, you get the point; so get busy!
