Talking sexy or “dirty” to your partner is something many people are uncomfortable with. However fun sexual or sensuous banter can enhance your relationship. We have some simple tips to follow to ease yourself into adding some dirty talk into your day to day life.
Spontaneous
Don’t over think it and start off small. In the middle of the day send a message about how sexy they are. You could remind them how much you want them through a text, a phone call, an email or a note left somewhere for them. Share in detail what you find sexy about them. If you think you’re ready to take it up a notch add in what you are looking forward to doing with them later and what you enjoyed doing with them the last time you were together.
Cleaner Dirty Talk
If intense dirty talk is something that seems out of your comfort zone, try simply sharing what you love about your partners body. Which parts you love to kiss or love to touch. You don’t have to use racy language to start with. Start with cleaner things like “I love the softness of your lips” and work your way up to “I love the way your thighs feel against my face.”
Change your Voice not your Vocabulary
If you are trying to add dirty talk to the bedroom but still not quite comfortable try lowering your voice to a throaty whisper instead. Try saying what it is you want in the moment: “Kiss me on my neck,”) or “Touch me here,” slide your hands teasingly to the spot you want to be touched for an extra bonus. Not only is this a great way to start adding in dirty talk but will also make sure you’re getting your needs met, exactly how and where you need it.
Remember there really is no “right way” to talk dirty to your partner, do what makes you feel confident and sexy.
