Women have mastered the art of the faked orgasm. No one wants to really have the awkward conversation that would follow a “no” when asked if it was good for them, so how do you really know if you’re a sex god, or a future sex gone wrong reddit thread? If you do any of the following things, stop immediately because chances are you are bad in bed.

Judge and Jury

If you have ever wondered if your partner is judging your sexual preferences, then you know just how uncomfortable being judged in bed can be. So, if you find yourself judging your partner for their sexual preferences you are doing the same thing to them you didn’t enjoy. Try to keep an open mind, you may find you actually enjoy some of the things you where to busy judging to fully immerse in.

Mums the Word

Silent sex is no fun. Neither is a silent sex life. If you are keeping silent about what you want and like, you are depriving yourself and your partner the chance to both have completely fulfilling sexual encounters. Eventually this can lead to the breakdown of your relationship due to the “somethings missing” feeling. So, don’t be afraid to open up about what you want, or don’t want.

Listen Up

Sex is give and take, so the same concept applies to your partners satisfaction. If you are doing all the talking and all the leading, then its highly likely they may find your sexual encounters less that fulfilling. Also, while you’re having sex, you can tell if someone isn’t enjoying themselves if you’re listening. If you go into sex ignoring your partner and seeking only to satisfy yourself at all costs, you are bad at sex.

Good sex is pretty simple at its core be attentive to what your partner wants and make sure you are both communicating your needs to establish a give and take dynamic that turns you both on. All the rest is just the cherry on top.