Yep you read that right! You should have bad sex. We’re not talking just your run of the mill eh it was alright sex. We’re talking oh my god I cannot believe how awful this is someone please put me out of my misery I never even want to see your face again bad sex. Here’s why, as much as bad sex sucks it can and will teach you a lot.
In order to appreciate good sex you need to have bad sex. If you only ever have good sex then you will never know how great the sex you’re having may actually be. That goes the other way too until you have really great mind blowing sex you may not even realize what you’ve been doing all along is actually kind of lousy. You need to experience both ends of the spectrum to truly understand and appreciate all that your lover has to offer.
There is no better way to learn what you like and what you don’t like. You will very quickly learn what you like if you don’t like what you’re currently having. If slow and soft has you laying there like you’re in a comma then chances are you like it rough.
It can embolden you. Once you have had enough bad sex and some good sex to compare it to you stop settling. Once you know what you become fearless in asking for and trying to get it. You also stop wasting your time with partners who cant give you what you want.
Having bad sex will teach you not to settle for anything less than incredible sex, because honestly who really wants to keep having bad sex? Once you have figured out that its not you its them, and what works and doesn’t work for you, you will find your sex life vastly improving. So for all those one night stands that where utter failures, thanks for teaching us everything it is we don’t want in a partner.
