So you’re a curious dreamer who’s ready to fall down that mysterious rabbit hole known as the anus, but you don’t know where to start. Anal play can be a lot of fun and open up a lot of (back)doors to new avenues of pleasure, but (butt!) you should always tread carefully when playing in the backyard. We’re here to offer you a beginner’s guide to anal play for men!
Communicate
As always, communicate with your partner! Let each other know what you want, what you like, and what isn’t working for you.
Hygiene
Before your partner heads downstairs, ask yourself, “Am I clean?” If you’ve had any irregular bowel movements, upset stomach, gastrointestinal problems, etc., then you should probably leave anal play off the menu for tonight. Otherwise, taking a shower and wiping down with a baby wipe should be enough. If you want to get porn star clean, wash out your insides with an enema. If you’re the one who’s going to be doing the touching, make sure your fingernails are short, trimmed, and filed.
Lubrication
Unlike vaginas, the ass doesn’t self-lubricate. Some anal explorers swear by spit. You can also choose a water, silicone, or oil based lube depending on whether or not you’re using condoms, toys, or just based on your own preference!
External Play
This is where your anal adventure will likely begin! The opening of your anus has a high concentration of nerve endings, making it very sensitive to stimulation. Your partner can start out by gently stroking it with their fingertips, probably with a dab of lube. You can also move onto rimming; circle your partner’s asshole with your tongue, using a variety of shapes, speeds, and pressure in a constant state of motion!
Internal Play
Are you ready to go spelunking? Let’s talk about the prostate! The prostate is a gland that produces seminal fluid, and can be indirectly stimulated. To find it, slowly and gently insert one or two fingers into your partner’s ass. The prostate is located about two to two inches past the anal opening, towards your partner’s belly; it will feel similar to a walnut.
Experiment with different kinds of touches to find out what feels good to you! You can also work your kegel muscles to see if that changes how your prostate reacts.
Toys
Anal toys offer lots of different kinds of back doors sensations! Just remember to always use non-porous toys made with body-safe materials and toys that have flared base so that they don’t get lost inside of you, leading to an embarrassing trip to the ER. Remember this mantra: “Without a base, without a trace!”
Butt Plugs
Butt plugs come in a variety of shapes, sizes, materials, and colors, and some even vibrate. Start small before working your way up in size!
Prostate Massager
Prostate massagers are similar to butt plugs, but their unique shape is made specially for massaging your prostate! Your body reacts to this toys and moves it around, giving you a hands free prostate massage!
Anal Beads
Anal beads typically have beads that go up in size the deeper you get. Try pulling them out as you cum to give your orgasm a little extra pizzazz!
Dildos
Feelings ready for the big guns? There’s tons of different kinds of dildos out there! Start small, pick on that has some give to it, and have fun! If your partner doesn’t have a cock, most anal safe dildos are also harness/strap on compatible, so you might even get to graduate to pegging!
There’s tons of fun anal play to be had, so don’t feel any pressure to try anything that you’re not ready for. Go at your own pace, communicate, and have fun!
