There has been a recent surge in interest towards bdsm. While bondage may seem the easiest route to explore your kinky side there are still some important things you should know before breaking out the chains.
SAFETY FIRST! As with any other form of rough, boundary pushing sex, safety needs to be your top priority. A safe-word is great for making sure your partner can scream, fight the restraints, and beg you to let them go or stop without having to worry that you will. We recommend the stoplight method for beginners green (great keep going), yellow (don’t stop all play but change what you’re doing), red (stop immediately). Whatever word you choose once that safeword is used you need to stop what you are doing and check on your partner. The safeword bondage tool is a great way to quickly undo your partner (or help loosen stuck knots). However if $60 is a bit steep for you bandage scissors are a great option for quickly cutting bonds without risking cutting your partner. Odds are nothing will go wrong, but if someone freaks out or a slip knot starts to cut off circulation, it’s good to have a quick way to undo them.
While plastic fur lined handcuffs are easily accessible and almost everyone’s go to for first time bondage they can quickly become uncomfortable and they break easily. Consider a beginners kit, they come in a range of colors and with extra accessories you can add in over time. The soft lined cuffs are comfortable and the velcro closures make them quick to put on and take off. If you are really unsure if bondage is for you and don’t want to spend any money on it belts off of robes make for soft simple restraints, just don’t tie them to tightly (you want to be able to fit 2 fingers between the bond and your partners skin to avoid loss of circulation).
Most people have a tendency to grab onto their partner or squirm away during the heat of the moment no matter how good it feels. Bondage is a great way to help their body be forced to let them lay their and enjoy it heightening the pleasure for both involved. Successful bondage will not work without 100% trust, so if she lets you tie her up don’t take advantage of the situation to do things she normally wouldn’t let you, or just leave her hanging, or she may never let you restrain her again.
