TalkToMe.com already told you all about the best anal positions in NOT Doing it Doggy: Positions For Anal, so now you need to know how to prep if you haven’t already experienced this pleasure! Many of the women who read this may immediately grimace and pronounce that anal sex is gross; ‘Exit Only!’ many of you will exclaim; Or ‘Ouch!’ you’ll complain.
When it comes to butt sex, it’s usually men asking for this taboo pleasure. I’d like to blame porn for this particular issue, although don’t get me wrong, I love porn! But men are pornographer’s biggest consumer, and they often see pretty porn stars gleefully taking a mammoth boner up their ass within the first two minutes of the scene. Sorry to burst your bubble guys, but this is by no means realistic. Next time you’re watching your favorite anal scenes (or check out 5 amazing anal scenes here!), take a good look at the porn princess’ butt before penetration happens
But I’m here to say that: if done properly, anal sex can and is a pleasurable addition to your bedroom activities for both parties. And doing it properly doesn’t include shortcuts, gentlemen; I mean, that pretty porn star has spent hours on set getting her hair and makeup done with a butt plug nestled in her ass to prepare her for that scene and is already nice and stretched out. It takes time and effort to make it pleasurable for women…and you most certainly want it to feel good so she’ll not just agree to it more often, but actually ask for it!
Therefore, here are the essential 4 steps for anal sex to slip in that back door with ease.
1. Foreplay
Like all good sex, foreplay is very important. But for anal sex, it is absolutely essential. Warm her up with an erotic massage, kissing and caressing her entire body until she is putty in your hands. Once she’s fully at ease, begin sucking on her nipples, playing with her clit, or whatever other forms of foreplay she likes best. You know how best to turn on your lady, so pull out all the stops!
2. Toys & Lube
Now that she’s begging for more, it’s time to focus some time on the sweet spot. But do not proceed without lube! And when it comes to lubrication, you can never have too much. Liberally apply lube to her anus and your fingers, using your clever digits to tease and titillate her tight little rosebud. Also highly recommended is a butt plug to stretch out her out. Fingers work wonders, it’s true, but nothing compares to a plug that will help her sphincter loosen up to accept your throbbing member. But don’t forget the lube–nothing is getting in there without it, fingers, toys, or cock.
3. More Foreplay
Once you’ve got that butt plug secured, continue with the foreplay. Make out like teenagers! Tweak her nipples and lick her pretty kitty. The more you stimulate her, the easier it will be to slide into her ass. But don’t forget to play with that toy, as well. Gently tug on it, move it around in a circular motion, and get down there and put your tongue to good use, licking around her ass until she is panting with need!
4. The Final Frontier
When you’re both ready, pull out the butt plug and slide that stiff rod into the promise land! Contrary to popular belief, doggy style is not the best way to accomplish this. Try good old missionary or spooning for the most comfortable position. You could also try having her sit on top, allowing her greater control over the speed with which her ass is penetrated and the depth she is comfortable with. Be sure to take your time–no need to rush! You spent all that time getting ready, so don’t ruin it now by thrusting in like a mad man! Ease in gradually, let her get used to it, and then slowly begin a gentle in and out motion. Don’t forget that lube! Keep things nice and wet in order to prevent too much friction and pain.
It may seem like a lot, and it is! But good sex requires time and tons of foreplay anyway, right? Sure, a quickie is great once in a while, but to really enjoy yourself fully you need to take it slow. So here’s to all you ladies and gents out there that are planning for a night of unfettered pleasure in the bedroom. I have no doubt that if you take my advice, you’ll soon be planning butt sex on a regular basis! Instead of dinner out for date night once a week, you’ll be staying in and spending your time bringing up the rear!
