Let’s all come clean and admit it, we all fantasize about it: the elusive quickie. Now I don’t say elusive because they are hard to come by, just that they are a logistical nightmare. Sneaking around, finding the right location, and clothing malfunctions tend to leave you wondering why you even tried. Often ending in an awkward fumbling blunder in a closet or restaurant bathroom rather than the rush of sexual excitement you’d hoped for, you can’t help but think these fantasies are better left in your head. Fear not, for we have uncovered a few secrets that will elevate that mediocre sexual experience in a bizarre and uncomfortable place to the incredible, sexually electrifying experience you want it to be.
First of all, let’s rearrange our perception of the quickie, and think of it less as a 15 minute solitary sexual experience and more like the last exciting moments of a prolonged sexual expedition. Rethinking of it this way takes the pressure off focusing on the sex itself, and allows you to enjoy every moment of the experience. Next, you want to take responsibility for your own sexual experience; ladies I’m talking to you! Guys have a much easier time rising to the challenge spontaneously, but ladies need a little more time to reach deep arousal. So arrive to the party at least 80% ready. Try masturbating in the morning and see how well your body responds to stimulation later in the day. Or if your mornings are a bit pressed, try having a little fun in the shower before you go out to meet your man. This will not only make the quickie feel more natural, but it will make the entire date a more relaxed and enjoyable experience.
Another thing that will help is to do your homework. If you know this is something that turns you on, don’t leave it to chance. You’re walking a razors edge in sexual spontaneity between passion and anxiety, and the way to stack the odds in your favor is to plan ahead. When you’re free to let your imagination roam, fantasize about the places you might want to throw down, then follow up with a little recon. Make sure the area is realistic and you’ll take a lot of the pressure off when your partner when you ease their minds by letting them know you did the recon. It also lets them know you’ve been thinking about them, and who doesn’t find that hot?
Remember, practice makes perfect. No one is going to be an expert the first time around, so keep it light hearted and make sure you both know to keep the pressure off. Try some dirty talk to loosen each other up, it’ll make the experience so much hotter. Send some dirty emails or text messages detailing what you want to do to each other and how it will feel. Make sure to go into great detail, the more the sexier. It will definitely get you both in the mood and ready for the adventure.
