Just because you’re heading over the hill doesn’t mean your days of erotic pleasure are behind you. Sex may not be electricity and fireworks any more, but you can keep the fire burning bright. Here are some things to consider when you’re getting frisky and you’re over 50.
Relax
As you go up and over the hill you may find it harder to get things under the belt up. Try not to stress that’s actually counterproductive.
Anxiety has been shown to constrict the arteries that carry blood into your penis, which will make an erection next to impossible to achieve. Instead take a breath relax and indulge in some serious foreplay. Try to minimize distractions and focus just on the sensations your partners stimulation bring.
Extend the pleasure
University of Chicago performed a study showing that premature ejaculation affects 31% of men in their 50’s. Two of the major causes of PE are anxiety and penis centric sex.
So again take a breath relax and try to engage in sex that incorporates all of your pleasure centers, not just your penis.
Broaden your horizons
Older couples may find erectile issues and vaginal dryness and atrophy to cause sex to feel more like a chore than a pleasurable experience. If this is the case for you and your partner give “outercourse” a try instead. Oral sex, incorporating toys, or even full body massages can bring as much pleasure and produce orgasms just as frequently if not more frequently as intercourse.
You will most likely find you and your partner are more in sync sexually as you age. Men find it take longer to become aroused as they age. This eliminates the male being finished before the female is even fully aroused. Relax enjoy the intimacy with your partner and try not to add any extra stress that could end up having negative effects.
