Prioritizing intercourse is over. It’s time to stop thinking of foreplay as the “before” part of sex. Instead, think of it as MORE-play. It’s a huge piece of plesure that deserves a better reputation than some optional pre-sex fun. In fact, penetrative sex doesn’t even need to be on the table at all for sex to be sex. Sex is everything involving genitals that brings someone sexual pleasure.
Make it all day play
Foreplay doesn’t need to be a sex precurser that starts once you are both in bed and ready to do the deed. It can start from the moment you wake up. Little texts like “Can’t wait to see you naked tonight” can get your partner excited before you even set foot in the same room. If sending nudes is something that turns you and your partner on, go ahead and swap some sexy photos with one another. Keep up sensual physical contact with each other when you are outside of the bedroom, doing chores, or just lounging on the couch.
Heat things up
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Forget the same old erogenous zone kissing, try adding some temperature play to really light your partners fire. Hold an ice cube between your teeth and drag it down your partner’s body, or get body wax or massage candles and take your time dripping them slowly from above your partner, then massaging the oils in.
Strip each other
Yes it is much faster to just both get yourselves naked, but where is the fun in that? Make it a part of both of your sexual start up and SLOWLY undress each other, take some time between each article of clothing to pay attention to the skin you’ve revealed before moving to the next item to remove. You can then focus on that newly revealed body part with kisses and licks. By the time you are both fully naked you will barely be able to keep your hands off each other.
Your foreplay will be unique to you and won’t follow a set script. It can be helpful to sit down and connect intimately with your partner to start. Co-create a special “moreplay menu” where you discuss all the things that make you feel sexy. Then, take it from there.
