If you find you have trouble crossing the finish line don’t worry, there are a few minor changes you can make to ensure you start reaching climax every time. Here are some tips from experts around the web that will have you moaning in pleasure in no time.

Self Love

When you’re an expert on your own body it makes it easier to explain to your partner exactly where and how you like to be touched. Getting off solo makes it that much more likely that you’ll get off when your partner comes into play. “When you know what is exciting and arousing, your partner can enhance it.” -Jane Greer, Ph.D., New York-based marriage and sex therapist.

Pace yourself

Warm-ups are important for cars, athletes, and sexual activities. A good goal is at least 20 minutes of foreplay to get your motors really going. You need to build up the excitement while also turning each other on which is a big part of the battle with an orgasm. The slow and steady buildup is the most important thing soft kissing, kissing the nipples, stroking the breasts, moving your hands toward the vagina but not touching. Remember you don’t need to set a timer for 20 minutes, the more time you spend pre-gaming the more relaxed and aroused you will both be, so spend the time enjoying each other’s bodies, and anything that builds excitement and awakens your senses to sexual stimulation, before things get to hot and heavy.

Relax

One of the best things you can do for yourself is to stop stressing the orgasm. That anxiety can block you from the pleasure you should be feeling. The more you relax the quicker you will climax. “Relaxation techniques and regular exercise are great strategies for managing and reducing stress, which can interfere with the ability to let go and enjoy orgasms during sex.” – Fran Walfish, Psy.D. If you find yourself unable to get the thoughts out of your mind try asking your partner for a little help. One powerful way to relax is for your partner to say, “You are not allowed to orgasm tonight” or “I don’t want you to orgasm.” It works like reverse psychology and many people find that this takes the pressure off of them to climax.

Everyone can learn how to climax it just takes a little practice and a lot of patience. Once you start finding your way to orgasms let your partner know what is working for you so you can both find your way to satisfaction more easily.