There are many sides to Tiktok, one of the fastest growing is the Kinktok community, kink educators are everywhere, but is what they are saying correct? We are here to cover some of the most common topics and weigh in on what advice you should be listening to to help you sort out who to follow and who is a fake.

Consent vs implied consent

In the kink community CONSENT IS KEY. If the person you have recently started following is trying to find ways to skirt consent or push those boundaries, they are not a good source of knowledge. When it comes to relationships that are into BDSM there is a standard of rules that healthy relationships adhere to, things need to be safe, sane, and consensual. Previous consent can be revoked and implied consent is not consent that is why safe words exist. For example if a sub is no longer comfortable with bondage even if they initially agreed to be tied up and gagged they have revoked consent.

Safe Words

Speaking of safe words, if your tiktoker doesn’t endorse safe words then they are not a good source for kink info. In any healthy sexual relationships, partners can have a safe word that they can use when they want things to stop. This is most commonly a color system where partners use red, yellow, and green. Red typically means to stop immediately and end a scene and start after care. Yellow means to slow down and check in, and green means things are really good and to continue.

Communication is as important as Consent

Communicating your desires, your fears, and your triggers is so important in any relationship. And in order to have the best possible sexual experience, partners need to be very open with one another so there is no miscommunication. You cannot gain full consent unless you have fully communicated with your partner. Research together, and keep communication open while you delve into new kinks.