Sexting may seem pretty self-explanatory, but if you have questions you are not alone! This week we are going to talk about the top 3 questions sexters are asking.

What Exactly is Sexting?

Any digital message, SMS, Facebook, tinder etc. that conveys erotic intent, or content. This could be a written message, an image, GIF, meme, emojis, or selfie. Sexting does not have to be a brazen, explicit description of a sexual act. It can be something as simple as innuendo, sensual compliments, or a comment pointing in the direction of your sexual desire and attraction for the person. Just make sure to get explicit consent before sending a dick pic!

How do I improve at sexting?

Take your time! Sexting just like sex has very few limits, it’s okay to keep learning as you go! Get comfortable with openly communicating your honest sexual thoughts, urges and fantasies. You ultimately don’t want to be reading off a list or just sending the same recycled messages over and over. You should be able to generate sexting content just based off what’s happening for you in real time. If you can make it short, enticing, and/or creative, you’ve got it made. Good sexting doesn’t require an erotic novel, just steamy dialogue that gets you both and keeps you both in the mood.

What if sexting makes me feel really awkward and uncomfortable?

If you are new to sexting being uncomfortable is completely normal! It’s important to consider the reasons why. Most people who feel uncomfortable about it are usually either: afraid of looking bad in the eyes of someone they’re attracted to, or unpracticed with communicating their sexual desires. If it’s the first, focus on escalating slowly. Flirt first and build your comfort level with your sexting partner, this can help calm your nerves! If it is the second, then sexting is a great way to safely push your personal sexual boundaries. Try asking questions instead of describing situations, let your partner lead while you work up to being able to respond in kind.

We will see you next week for more tips and answers to keep your sext life steamy.