At any given moment, singles (or polyamorous people) can be fielding messages from multiple prospects across many dating platforms. So how do you cut through the noise and push their emotional hot buttons so that they’re fantasizing about you, more often than the rest? Learning to pace your sexting sessions is a great place to start!
It’s common to feel shier about making sexy comments and innuendo in person than over text. Since they’re not actually there, the sexting route might feel a little less intimidating. But if you’re making leading comments and flirting on your phone, but don’t have the confidence to repeat that kind of energy when you meet up in real life, the other person may notice the inconsistency and wonder if the online you or the in person you is the real you. You also shouldn’t try to go 0-60, take your time a slow build will have them dripping with anticipation instead of swerving you fast. So, make sure to be true to yourself no matter whether its digital or real life.
Here is a simple tip to keep the pacing of your erotic rapport building in check: if you take a step verbally or physically, repeat that step on the opposite platform, no matter how simple. If you frequently mention kissing licking or nibbling on their lips in your messaging, be sure to at least look at their lips in person if not attempt to kiss them. If you didn’t make any physical contact or overtly flirtatious comments on your first date, besides hugging goodbye, don’t send them a text saying, “I wish I was buried between your legs right now.” Make sure your in rl pace matches your online pace.
Remember not to go to fast, you want to foster a slow build that keeps them wanting (and coming back) for more! We will see you next week for more tips and tricks to help you master the art of sexting!
