There are plenty of ways to find your conversation screen grabbed and posted across fail websites, so save yourself the extra hard failure by avoiding these big sexting no-no’s at all costs.

Limp sexting is as bad as limp dick

Minimum effort will not provide maximum results when it comes to texting. You are not there to make up for anything that’s lacking so you need to be packing your A game. “I liked that thing you did”, or “That feels nice” is a -10 on the sexting scale. There is nothing sexy about vague offhand replies. You might not want to come on too strong up front, because timing definitely matters, but going too simple comes across as boring and uninterested. Sexting is about teasing and building anticipation, to do that, you have to, at least occasionally, put some effort in.

Photo Fails

Everyone should know by now not to send an unsolicited dick pic, but there is more to consider once you are sending pics to accompany your sexting. Take a minute to consider the lighting and angle of your photo. Do not just snap a straight on, flashed, close-up of your butthole. Try softer, more sensual lighting, if you wouldn’t bend over and bare it in person don’t send it! Play with silhouettes, side angles and other indirect techniques. Sometimes alluding to something sexual is way hotter than just straight up showing off the goods. It’s all about the innuendo, you want them trying to tilt their head to see more of what you’ve shown them.

Watch your words

Just like with being to vague you can also go to far the other way. Some people like to be called dirty little slut cum buckets, but not all. Make sure your partner is into dirty talk before you dive in and turn them off immediately. Make direct references, in plain and clear terms, but keep in mind there is a big difference between “I want to slide my hard pulsing dick inside your tight wetness” and “I want to ram my cock into your pussy.” Know which will work best for your sexting partner as a turn on.

Most importantly before starting up a sexting slew between you and your check in to see what they are doing real quick so you don’t send them something while they are sitting down to family dinner with grandma. We will see you next week for more tips to help you master sexting.