Big beautiful humans and humans with disabilities love loving too, don’t settle for so so sex just because you have more cushion, or need a cushion for the pushing. Whether you’ve gained the quarantine 15 and are looking for new ways to celebrate your curves and your sexuality, or you have mobility limitations and are tired of the same positions we have some suggestions that may be perfect for you.
The lap dance
Seated sex can be especially beneficial for anyone with mobility restrictions. The penetrating partner sits in a chair (preferably on flooring that won’t slip). The receiving partner then straddles them, facing whichever way best suits both you and your partners needs. Facing away may be more comfortable for people with big bodies or if there are arm rests on the chair. Seated sex can also be extremely accessible if the penetrative partner is a wheelchair or mobility device user. Should they already use a wheelchair, this position can be achieved quite easily. If the receiving partner can walk, they can sit on the penetrative partner’s wheelchair or mobility device, and that way both partners can participate in sexy, seated fun. If you have a bigger body, getting on top of your lover can feel intimidating, using a chair instead of trying a cowgirl position you can use the back of the chair for a handle, and you can put most of your weight on the floor allowing you to worry less and enjoy more.
The Pillow Prop
With a little help you can be on your knees without needing to support your body. There are many sex pillows on the market, the most useful of these may be the wedge. Try lying across the wedge,
place your thighs against the back of the wedge, and let the furniture do the work while you’re penetrated or receive oral sex or do other kinky things. Pillow propped positions may be more disability-friendly with the receiving partner using a wedge. It is important also to double-check with the penetrative partner as to their disability and access needs in these positions, as issues with chronic pain are common for people with Ehler’s-Danlos Syndrome, Cerebral Palsy, etc you may need to modify as their needs deem.
The Stand and Deliver
The receiving partner lies on their back on the bed, or table, or couch, and the penetrating partner enters them while standing next to the bed. This position may not be easily accessible to people with disabilities and/or who use mobility devices. If the penetrating partner has disabilities and uses a walker or a cane, this position could work for them. If the receiving partner has issues with chronic pain and positioning, this kinky position can be modified using pillows. If you have concerns about being able to support your legs in this position consider adding a spreader bar, not for the kink but because this could easily be slipped behind your partners shoulders or held with a hand to help prevent muscular fatigue.
Remember, you’re a beautiful sexy human no matter what, and you deserve what you want, when you want it, and how you want it. Do what feels good, safe and accessible for you.
