Just because things are heating up doesn’t mean the bedroom has to cool down! Thanks to the pandemic most of us have been forced to slow down, so since you don’t have to worry about a quick fix for your sexual needs now is the perfect time to slow things down.
Why give slow sex a try?
While some of the benefits of slow sex might be more self-explanatory than others there are a few you may not have thought of, like more, and more powerful orgasms. If one or both of you are male, slower sex gives a higher likelihood that you will be able to have multiple ejaculatory orgasms without being deterred by your refractory period. More connection between you and your significant other, which can decrease stress and lessen fights.
How to start
Turn off any and all digital distractions, then work on getting in the mood. Slow sex starts during foreplay, because foreplay sets the tone of how the overall sexual sessions is going to go. Try a bath together or start with some light massage. Take your time even with your foreplay. Spend time kissing your way from their fingertips to their neck. You want to push your foreplay until every touch elicits a bodily reaction from your partner before moving on. Foreplay is great, and taking it slowly definitely sets the stage for some luscious, nourishing, heart-exploding sexual play, but keep in mind the goal is not quick release so don’t jump right from foreplay to rough sex and waist all that build up.
Slow Jam
Take your time when first penetrating or being penetrated. Savor the moment. Make sure you both feel every inch as you finally move onto the main course. Don’t lose all the work you did during foreplay once you are intertwined. touch, feel, communicate, taste, and play. You have all night there is no need to rush. Give edging a try, once one of you is close to cumming slow things down or change them up so that by the time you do both reach climax it is a slowly built explosion.
Trade in your drive through sex for a full 12 course sextravaganza. Don’t race through it like you race through most of your life… slow down and savor every sensation. Every moan, every hair follicle, every tender kiss, every orgasm… remain present for it all. Watch your partner unfurl in ecstasy
