Saturdays are all about exploring the stranger sides of our sex and sexuality, but what do we do with the knowledge that we are secretly sexually kinky, but maybe our partners aren’t physically with us? This Saturday is all about kinks that are compatible with long distance or virtual relationships.

O-Control

Thanks to teledildonics even if we cant physically touch our partner we can still have some control over their pleasure. We-Vibe and many other sex toys now come with companion apps that allow someone else to “drive” your sexual pleasure. Maybe they tease you and keep you on edge for hours or days. Maybe they turn up the stimulation to overwhelm you and force a few orgasms.

Fin-Dom

Financial domination aka findom is a form of power exchange in which submissives give money to their Doms. They may do this as tributes or gifts. It may be as part of a consensual nonconsent (CNC) scene involving blackmail. It’s easily done online because sending payments and tributes or buying gifts takes just a few taps on our phones most of the time. Partners may never meet or interact in person and still have a strong connection. It is important to practice this kink responsibly and keep an eye out for subfrenzy as well as establishing very clear boundaries on what is being given and received.

D/S

Just because you aren’t physically together doesn’t mean a d/s relationship can’t still thrive. A lot can be done over video calls, with pictures, and with apps like obedience, which can feel like your Dom is right there with you. Rewards and punishments can be given with very explicit instructions from the Dom. As in any d/s relationship trust is extremely important since it is easy for people to lie when the power exchange is happening virtually.

As with all kinks, online or in-person, it’s important to negotiate what you will and won’t do before the scene. We will see you next week while we explore more of the “stranger” sides of sex and sexuality.