Saturdays are all about opening our minds to the “stranger” sides of sex and expanding our views on sexuality. Scheduling may sound like work, however, for many people scheduling sex has saved their sex lives. Are you thinking that GOOD sex is about the spontaneous spark and connection? Great sex can happen like that, but there’s no reason that scheduled sex cant be just as good!
Putting “sex” on your calendar isn’t a new concept. But how does it actually work in practice? Do you set a date and time at the beginning of the week? Do you and your partner talk about it, or do you just add a little heart next to June 5th without asking them if they have a meeting or something planned that night.
Scheduled sex is a little different, but it doesn’t have to be any less passionate or intense. One of the best parts about scheduling sex is the prep. Getting ready for sex before you know it’s going to happen is honestly half the fun, and it’s a whole different way to express the passion and intensity of your sex life. Some people make this a part of their foreplay, the build up before hand only adding to their experience.
It’s important to address with your partner why you want to schedule sex in the first place. Are you both busy and struggle to find time during the week? Do you just want to have more sex this year? Are you trying to slowly add in new things to your sex life scheduling something new to try once a month that way you both know when its coming and can mentally prepare for it.
Whatever method you use to plan your days, weeks, or months works here. If you’re more digital, adding an emoji to the date in your Google Calendar or iCal suffices. This will not only hold you accountable to that day, but it helps you build excitement. Seeing your sex emoji on your iCal for Thursday night might be just what you need to get through the week.
Prioritizing sex doesn’t mean you cant still have spontaneous sex, just that you’ve giving dedicated time to connecting with your partner and making sure neither of your sexual needs are neglected. We will see you next Saturday for more strange sex adventures!
