Dirty talk activates the imagination, supercharges sexual polarity, and adds a steamy air of liberation to your sex life. However, it is often overlooked as an area of sexual improvements. Just like sex itself, dirty talk is something that needs to be adjusted to whoever is receiving it. Something that you qualify as ‘dirty talk’ is something the other person might find offensive, silly, or straight up insane, and vice versa. We have the down low to help make sure you are dominating dirty talking.

Use it as a Tool

Dirty talk can be a powerful tool in the bedroom. There is no reason to wait until your in the middle of sex to start talking dirty to each other. Use dirty talk to enhance your foreplay but whispering all the things your want to do to your partner and want them to do to you. Once you move from foreplay to sex guide your session but saying what you like or how things feel.

Don’t be Vague

The occasional “Yes” or “Mmm, that feels great” is okay, but good dirty talk is much more descriptive. Instead of “I like that” describe what it is you actually like. For example: “It is so hot when you grab the sheets when I sink inside you.” Or “I love the way your big hands feel wrapped around my breasts/ass/waist/neck.” Let them know what you are enjoying about the moment, so they know what to give you more of. Most people dirty talk only about what they see or feel. However, taste, sound, and smell can all be used to enhance the variety of your dirty talk. “I love the taste of you.” “I love the sounds you make while that pussy clenches around my throbbing cock.” there is so much fun to be had by letting your descriptive imagination run wild.

Know your Partner

Some people adore their dirty talk to be filled with swear words, others hate it. Some people want their dirty talk to include very clinical descriptions of their genitals (penis, vagina) while others want the dirtier street slang (cock, pussy, dick, cunt, etc.). Make sure you know your partners trigger words that take dirty talk from a turn on to a turn off.

Check back next week for some ideas of things you can say in the bedroom if you find yourself stuck, or to lost in the moment to come up with something on your own.