Good sex, even great sex, with someone you care about deeply, can get boring. If you’ve tried all the typical tips like taking a dance class together, joining a hiking group, doing trivia night at your local bar or taking a road trip to somewhere you haven’t visited before, then we are here to help with some less common ways to rekindle your spark.
Turn each other on with no outlet
For most highly passionate couples, sex is just the tip of the iceberg, the slow buildup and enjoying each others arousal is just as important as the actual sex. Drawing foreplay out or teasing each other when you’re out in public and can’t do anything sexually explicit are both great ways to get each other and keep each other turned on. A playful pinch on the butt or kiss before work matters more than you think. Putting a premium on non-sexy-time touch is a great way to remind your partner that you want them even if you can’t have them right now. Getting all hot and bothered and letting it build gradually can lead to super-intense, satisfying sex when you finally do get to get it on together.
Self-care is sexy
Extraordinary sex isn’t just about your relationship with your partner. It’s also about your relationship with yourself. You have to take care of yourself. That might mean making time for self-care, treating your body right, overcoming sexual shame or guilt or learning new skills, like how to orgasm or how to last longer in bed. When you feel confident and sexy your partner will pick up on it and it will shift your sex life from obligatory back to enjoyable.
Make sure to check in with each other often. Clear communication is essential when it comes to keeping your sex life alive.
