Do you want to have not just good sex, but to have great sex that completely satisfies your partner and yourself before, during, and after? Everyone needs a little guidance now and then, so we’ve created this list of tips to help make sure you are at peak performance.

Use Your Mouth

We aren’t talking about having a conversation with your partner to see how things are going, even though that could help make sure you’re both getting your needs met. We are talking about using your mouth, or your hands or maybe you can even put your feet to work if that’s what gets your partner going. The point make is it’s important to diversify the sexual experience. Standard penetrative sex isn’t known for delivering sexual satisfaction to all parties every time. In fact, research has confirmed that women typically require a variety of sexual stimulation to reach orgasm, like oral sex, so make sure to play around.

Widen your scope

The best athletes don’t just show up play and then leave, and you shouldn’t be either. Sex does not begin and end in the bedroom. Do your best to keep sexual communication up throughout the day, especially if you have plans to get it on after work. Send your partner a sexy message to get them thinking about it too. Grab their ass when they are making dinner. Kiss them when you pass them for no reason at all. Flirtation is important to maintain within a relationship. It’s a fun way to punctuate the day. Hold on to that energy, when at home and even when you’re not. It’s important to remember that sex doesn’t end after orgasm. Embracing your partner after you pop is also part of the process. A nice cuddle helps communicate intimacy and affection, and those are two very important things to prioritize in any relationship.

Get off yourself

No, seriously. If you’re worried about orgasming too soon during sex, try getting off beforehand. After ejaculation, men experience a refractory period, a span of time where the body can recover and replenish after orgasm. Chances are, going at it alone first will help you last a bit longer with your partner.

We hope these tips help keep you at the top of your game!