With a second round of shutdowns looming on the horizon, it may be time to brush up on your phone sex game incase you and your partner have to spend some time apart. We are here to help with some tips to make sure your phone sex sessions are as successful as possible.
Keep it natural
There are two basic types of phone sex: mutual fantasy, and in-character sex. The former is much easier to have and involves two people acknowledging they’re far away from one another but very horny, often both masturbating at the same time and describing that to one another. The second version is much harder to sustain because it involves prolonged pretending that the phone isn’t really there and you’re describing a sexual story to one another starring both of you. Keeping up a character and narrative is difficult. If you are just starting out with phone sex, its better to be more real and stick to things you’re comfortable with rather than attempt porn level fantasy play.
Push your boundaries
Not having to be in the room together, looking your partner in the eye, sometimes makes people feel freer to say what they really want. Maybe your partner doesn’t mind the idea of being spanked in theory but doesn’t actually enjoy the action of it. Phone sex is the time to live out that dream. Obviously, you should still be acting within the bounds of what your partner is comfortable with. If they’ve made it clear that something is off-limits, simply describing it over the phone rather than performing it doesn’t make that act okay. You want to push boundaries, not cross them.
Be prepared for awkward moments
Phone sex is just like real sex in that sometimes things can just get awkward. Accept the fact that not every single second is going to be hotter-than-hot, that some of it will feel a little off. Laugh it off with your partner and try redirecting. Remember that just because you’re horny when you called doesn’t mean they weren’t just sweeping the floor so try to set the mood to minimize the awkward moments.
Most importantly enjoy it. Phone sex is a great chance to be able to do things with your partner like fuck them against a window, that in reality you may not be able to do.
