There is a plethora of advice for how to turn someone on sexually, but what about without being overtly sexual. Perhaps you like to play the long game and keep things light and casual at first, but you still want them getting all hot and bothered when they think about you. We have compiled a list of the most common things that turn people on that aren’t sexual at all!

Hot Mess

Most people spend a good amount of time worrying about looking perfect for their someone special. It may come as a surprise to know that messy morning look is one of the top turn on’s for most people, especially men. “She probably thinks she looks awful but that messy morning look when her hair is everywhere, and her eyes aren’t hidden behind her makeup and glasses is when she turns me on the most.”

Sweats

Whether he’s in grey sweatpants and topless, or she’s got on sweats and a messy bun, across the board people agree there’s just something irresistible about the casual look. “She has this one matching set that the sweatpants hug her hips just right, and the sweatshirt has a zipper she pulls up and down without thinking about it and I catch myself just staring every time she wears it.”

Scent

Everyone knows pheromones are powerful, but did you know you don’t have to have a fancy pheromone spray to turn your partner on? The reaction between skin and perfume can differ from woman to woman, even if they are wearing the same perfume. This makes every woman have their own scent, and for some men even just the smell of baking (pumpkin pie has been scientifically proven to turn men on) lingering on their partners skin can drive them mad with desire.

There are many more listed, for example do you pop in contacts before going out? most men find women who wear glasses extremely sexy. So embrace all those aspects of yourself you may not consider sexy, you never know just what  may be driving your partner crazy with desire in your day to day life.