When it comes to penises, there are two kinds of “too big,” one is length, the other is girth. If you’re one of the lucky ones with an undoubtedly large penis, meaning a good inch or two more than the 5 inch average, you should be aware that there is such a thing as “too big” for many women, because by the end of the day, if you’re going to use your penis for penetration, the person on the receiving end has to feel pleasure as well and can only do so if everything fits and doesn’t hurt. Of course, you can have a combination of these challenges, depending on the person. Either way there are some things you can do to make sure your partner is enjoying sex too.

Warm up

For both length and girth, make sure not to skimp on the foreplay. Foreplay is not only a great way to increase vaginal lubrication, which will help immensely with girth, but arousal actually lengthens the vagina and increases its maximum diameter, which will make you both much more comfortable during sex.

Positions

If a penis is too long, you’ll want to avoid positions that provide deeper penetration. This means that positions during which have you partners legs or knees pulled back toward their shoulders are off the table, and you should be very careful about positions during which they are on all fours. If you do decide to go for doggy, you’ll want to raise their back instead of lower it, as lowering provides deeper penetration and will likely be too intense. The best position for length issues is reverse cowgirl, as it gives them complete control over penetration depth and speed and provides shallower penetration than forward-facing cowgirl, and with more control.

Toys

There are a combination of toys and products available if your dick is too large. These vary from doughnuts that fit around the base of the penis to dildos of increasing size that you can use to prepare your partners body for a large than life penis.